(I'm bored, so I crosspost)The Pervocracy - the praises of phases
I really liked this article, because I am in the same boat. I've so far led a quite varied life, and I've had quite a number of phases. And I don't regret any of them. Each and every one of those phases has left me with something valuable. Also, I don't think I've "outgrown" any of them in the sense of "I left those childish things behind". It's more that I am no longer as interested in them as I once was. Back when I was in that phase, it gave me fulfillment and joy. Now, I'm finding that fulfillment and joy in other things.
I also don't subscribe to the pov that says that if you stop being something, you never really were a REAL something in the first place. For instance, I no longer say that I'm pagan. I don't think that it means I was never a REAL pagan, because I was. Same with Christianity. Yes, I used to be a REAL Christian. And a REAL atheist. Now I'm a REAL agnostic. I'm pretty sure a lot of people would, if they read this, say in their head "well, no, you weren't". Because religion is one of those things that you are supposed to find and then adhere to for the rest of your life, and everything before was "just a phase". What bothers me about this isn't the "phase", but the "just". As if having been a Christian, an Atheist, a Pagan didn't leave me with important memories.
Some people, when you stop being X, will accuse you of being a sort of traitor to the cause. This, once again, is especially true with religion. But it's equally true with every other belief and life choice that will get you flak from those who are not X. For instance, I'm no longer childfree. I also used to be straight. These are the most controversial of my "phase changes". I'm not supposed to talk about them, because people who are (for lack of a better word) breeders, and those who are homophobic, will use my example to harass people (tho it's stupid to use me as an example if you're homophobic, because I changed from straight to pansexual). As in "well, Fireez changed her mind, AND SO WILL YOU". Um, no. Yes, I did change my mind. But that was ME. That wasn't anyone else, so no, you cannot use me as an example to try and convince anyone else that they will change. Because they might not. See, there are some things about me that so far have not changed. My love for animals, for instance. That's been with me my whole life. Everyone has these constants, just as everyone has phases. For some people, their childfreeness and sexual orientation are constants.
And now, for the fun of it, here are some of my phases:
- amateur astronomer
- horseback rider
- manga fan
Gimme some of yours!